by Igor Smirnov
Self-confidence is a key ingredient of success in your personal as well as professional life.
Sadly, school education doesn’t equip us with this skill. As a result, you have to learn it on your own.
In this article, you will learn 7 powerful ways to build lasting self-confidence and esteem.
We have over 50,000 thoughts every day. Did you know, around 80% of these thoughts are Negative?
Therefore, as you can see, there is definitely something we need to fix here. We must force ourselves to pay attention to the good things that happen to us. The ‘Success Journal’ will help you in doing this.
So, Take A Notebook.
And every evening, Write Down 5 Or More Good Things that happened to you (on that day). You can also include general qualities about yourself.
Therefore, writing it down in a journal, will discipline you to think about at least 5 positive things, with minimal distraction.
Nowadays, when we talk about ‘Celebration’, it usually just means heading out for a drink with friends. However, the concept of celebration has a profound psychological effect.
Celebrating forces us to deliberately ‘pay attention to our accomplishments’.
Celebration does NOT have to be HUGE.
It can be anything – even if it is just buying you a piece of chocolate!
The important thing is to allocate time for celebration and immerse yourself in the environment of success – even if it just a small one!
Often times, we long to be more self-confident. Such situations are usually those where we are required to act alone and the outcome of this action has important consequences.
The first thing to recognize here is that feeling stressed in situations where we are required to act alone is normal. Everybody feels the same.
Let’s have a look at famous motivational speaker Tony Robbins.
He spends A LOT of effort pumping and prepping himself prior to the show. Here’s an interesting video about it.
His confidence is not just some inherent quality that he has. Rather, he needs to work meticulously towards maintaining it.
Maybe you should take inspiration from this, don’t you think?
Instead of bouncing on the trampoline, you can instead jump on the spot. Or make any other active body movement that will, in turn, pump up your emotions and energy.
For example, you can engage in a powerful body posture.
This will have positive psychological consequences and make you feel more confident.
Arnold Schwarzenegger is one of the best examples to quote when it comes to learning the skill of how to become self-confident.
In his books and interviews, Arnold revealed the secrets of his confidence. Check out the following 3 tips from Arnold Schwarzenegger on gaining self-confidence.
The second tip from Schwarzenegger is that you should have a goal, a vision. Arnold emphasizes many times throughout almost all of his interviews that the most important thing for you to have is your goal, your vision.
That big dream helped them to stay motivated, stay positive, and to move towards that distant positive vision.
Another thing is that if you have a BIG goal, all the ongoing troubles will seem little and insignificant for you.
Here is the photo of Arnold Schwarzenegger’s childhood home, where he was born and spent his youth.
Arnold put photos of people who motivated him on the wall, so that they always kept motivating him. Schwarzenegger used the photos of famous sportsmen, power lifters, bodybuilders etc.
The best way is to take control of this process. Choose your heroes, put their photos on the wall and imitate them.
There is one more positive side of putting the photos of your heroes on the wall. If you have a certain ambitious goal, you might be unsure whether you will be able to achieve it or not.
But, when you have the photos of the people who have already achieved their goals in front of your eyes, then you know that it is possible.
1.Decorate your home with certificates and trophies.
2.Maintain a success journal
3.Celebrate your victories
4.Develop your pre-event ritual
5.Become good at something
6.Pursue your goal, your vision
7.Emulate your Heroes, put their photos on the wall